Your Grief Is Valid
Therapy for Infertility & Loss
Tender, specialized therapy for the heartbreak of miscarriage, stillbirth, failed IVF, and the isolating grief of infertility. You don't have to carry this alone.
Request Your Free ConsultationYou wanted this baby more than anything. You planned for it, hoped for it, maybe fought for it through months or years of treatments, procedures, and devastating disappointments. And now you're grieving something that most people around you don't understand — or don't acknowledge.
Maybe you lost a pregnancy early and people told you, “At least it was early” — as if timing determines the depth of your love. Maybe you went through round after round of IVF, and each negative test felt like a death. Maybe you held your baby and had to say goodbye. Maybe you're watching everyone around you get pregnant effortlessly while you inject hormones and pray.
The grief of infertility and pregnancy loss is a special kind of pain. You're mourning a person you never got to meet, a future you imagined, a version of yourself you were ready to become. And the world doesn't have a good framework for this kind of grief. There's no funeral, no casserole train, no socially acceptable mourning period.
Your grief is real. Your loss is real. And you deserve a safe space to process all of it — the anger, the sadness, the jealousy, the guilt, and the hope that refuses to die.
I'm Vera McGrath, and I provide gentle, compassionate therapy for women navigating the heartbreak of infertility and pregnancy loss. I understand that this is one of the loneliest experiences a woman can face, and I'm here to walk through it with you.
Does This Sound Familiar?
If you're experiencing any of these, you're not alone — and therapy can help.
“You are allowed to grieve what you never got to hold. Your love for this baby is real, and so is your pain.”
— Vera McGrath, LMFT
The Grief Nobody Talks About
Infertility and pregnancy loss create a unique type of grief — what psychologists call disenfranchised grief. It's grief that society doesn't fully acknowledge or support. There are no bereavement policies for miscarriage. No one sends flowers after a failed IVF cycle. People may minimize your pain with well-meaning but devastating comments.
This lack of recognition can make you feel like you're supposed to “get over it” quickly. You might stuff your feelings down, put on a brave face, and keep showing up — while inside, you're drowning.
Miscarriage — Whether it happened at 5 weeks or 20 weeks, you lost your baby. The physical experience is often traumatic in itself, and the emotional aftermath can last for months or years.
Stillbirth — The trauma of delivering a baby who has died is profound and devastating. The memories of that experience deserve gentle, specialized processing.
Failed fertility treatments — The cycle of hope and devastation that comes with IVF, IUI, and other treatments takes an enormous toll on your mental health, your body, your relationship, and your finances.
Secondary infertility — Struggling to conceive after already having a child comes with its own unique pain — and the added isolation of people assuming you should be “grateful for the one you have.”
How Therapy Helps You Heal
Therapy for infertility and loss isn't about “getting over it” or “moving on.” It's about making space for your grief, processing it fully, and eventually finding a way to carry it that doesn't consume you.
A safe space to be fully honest — In my office, you can say the things you're afraid to say out loud. That you're jealous of your pregnant friend. That you resent your partner for not being more affected. That you feel broken and defective. That you're not sure you can keep doing this. All of it is welcome here.
EMDR for traumatic loss — If your miscarriage, birth, or medical experience was traumatic, EMDR can help process those memories so they don't continue to haunt you. This is especially helpful for women who experienced physical trauma during a loss.
Navigating the fertility journey — If you're still in active treatment, therapy can help you manage the emotional rollercoaster, make decisions from a centered place, and maintain your mental health through the process.
Processing the decision to stop — If you're considering ending fertility treatments, exploring adoption, or choosing to live childfree, therapy can help you work through this incredibly complex decision with self-compassion.
Relationship support — Infertility and loss strain even the strongest relationships. I can help you and your partner communicate about grief, navigate different coping styles, and reconnect.
Your Heart Deserves Tender Care
You don't have to grieve alone. Reach out for a free consultation and let me hold some of this weight with you.
Request Your Free ConsultationPregnancy After Loss
If you become pregnant after a loss, the joy is often laced with terror. You know what can go wrong. You're afraid to get attached. Every appointment feels like holding your breath. Other people tell you to “enjoy it,” but you can't turn off the fear.
I provide specialized support for pregnancy after loss — a space where you can hold both your hope and your fear without judgment. We'll work on managing anxiety, honoring the baby you lost, and connecting with this pregnancy — all at a pace that feels safe for you.
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You Don't Have to Do This Alone
Take the first step toward healing. Schedule your free consultation today and discover how therapy can help you feel like yourself again.
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